Family Matters Articles in the Laconia Daily Sun

Family Consultation Services was established to offer family educational programs and personal consulting services to people who want to know more about family dynamics, figure out how their own family works, and how to help individuals free themselves from the issues they developed while growing up in their family.

The following articles were published in the Laconia Daily Sun to begin conversations on these important topics. Please add comments or questions to the articles, and let’s keep talking.



 “You Are What You Do…Not What You Say You’ll Do”

                                 C.G. Jung

The Importance of Marital Negotiation

What is negotiation?  The dictionary says, “to confer with another…in order to come to terms or reach an agreement…to arrange or settle by discussion and mutual agreement.”  And “agree” means, “to grant consent, to be in accord of opinion, to be of one opinion,...

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The Decision to Create a Child

The next stage in the couple’s family life cycle, if they choose it, is the addition of a child.  Wow!  Those words just rolled off my lips.  Do I realize the gravity of what I am saying?  There is no turning back; your lives will be changed forever.  I cannot say...

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What is Marriage Preparation?

What would marriage preparation look like?  Would anybody be interested in pursuing a psycho-social educational program that would prepare people to make better and more informed decisions when it comes to marriage?  I am an optimist as well as somebody who is...

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Becoming a Couple: The Joining of Families

In her book, Marriage: A History, Stephanie Coontz writes, “For most of history it was inconceivable that people would choose their mates on the basis of something as fragile and irrational as love and then focus all their sexual, intimate, and altruistic desires on...

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Using the Family Life Cycle

Last week I introduced you to the Family Life Cycle.  It chronicles the movement of families through progressive stages of development.  The theory presents a journey that all families pass through at different speeds and with different results.  Carter and...

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The Family Life Cycle

Most of us are aware that there is a progress chart to measure achild's growth and development.  As we were raising our children, we were able to see and observe their progress; able to go to a pediatrician or book to find out what the markers were for a child's...

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The Core Voice

Last week, I asked you to look inside, listen for and find your "little voice.”  That “little voice" that belittles, demeans, confuses and sabotages your passion and drive for an honest and integral life.  We can't have an honest life if we do not keep our word to...

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Mastering the Voice Within

You say, "what voice?”  I'm talking about that voice in your head that just said, “what voice?”  I am in your head and I am not here to be your friend - unless you want a "less than" life.  I am coming clean today so that you will have a chance for a super life, more...

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Thriving – Not Just Surviving – Covid-19

Who isn't finding this COVID-19 period stressful?  First of all, it is difficult because we didn't choose it; it was forced upon us. No one likes being forced, at any age, into dealing with something they didn’t ask for. So, you automatically have your back up.  The...

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The Uncomfortable Dance

The emotional intensity of relationships has its ebb and flows.  The tendencies of distancing and pursuing that we have been talking about for the last few weeks are held in balance when dating - because of the “in love” emotional state of well-being, almost a...

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